" I was twenty seven when I first met P. He was with someone else at that time. We moved in together when I was thirty two. Then I had K when I was thirty six, I had R at thirty eight."
" Really? Wow."
" Yeah, so you got plenty of time."
" Well, not according to my mom. But I'm in no hurry, I still have lots of other things I wanna do before marriage and have a kid."
" Yes, take your time. Don't get married just for the sake of marriage. I never get married, I am with P for forty years now, but we never bothered to get married."
就这样，我跟一位七旬老人边走边聊天。很难想象，她跟她爱人在一起，养育了两个孩子，却从未结婚，也不曾提过婚姻，但两个人一起携手走了四十年了，不曾分离。
换作现在的年轻人，都不知道分分合合好多次了。我身边的朋友，大多数也是经历了很多分分合合才结合到一起的。有时会遇到一些年轻人，喜欢了就在一起，生了孩子不合，就分开。结婚、离婚，不断轮回，我都不知道他们把婚姻当作了什么，仿佛招之即来挥之即去……
我也不知道自己什么时候会走进婚姻的殿堂，以及是否会走进婚姻的殿堂，但是婚姻于我而言，比较神圣，得慎重考虑。如果不是真的爱一个人，那么我宁愿不结婚。也许人们会说，那是你年龄还没有到时候，所以不懂得妥协，当你到了一定年纪后，肯定也会想要找个人搭伙过日子的，否则多寂寞孤单……
其实，我早已经过了中国家长眼中的结婚年龄，我妈n妈也不知催了我好多年了，可是我倔，不肯妥协，现在还在异国他乡漂泊着。未来于我，完全属于未知，有太多的不确定性，但那又怎样？日子不也继续过吗？
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