与人交往，这三件事坚决不能做

孟子曰：爱人者人恒爱之，敬人者人恒敬之。古人尚且知道礼尚往来的道理，但对于有些人来说，在与人交往的时候，总是把自己抬的很高，把别人贬得很低。表面上自己占优势，实际上身边又少了一个认同你的人。与人交往，以下三件事坚决不能做，否则吃亏的是自己。
Mencius: Lovers always love, worship people always respect. The ancients still know the truth of the courtesy exchange, but for some people, when dealing with people, always put themselves high, the others are very low. On the surface of their own advantage, in fact, there is one less person around to identify with you. With people, the following three things firmly can not do, otherwise it is their own loss.

【1】说话太慢
1. Talk too full.
对大部分人来说，说话是一件轻而易举的事，只要是张开嘴，都能够滔滔不绝的讲。与人交往，话怎么说，要三思而后行。不是仅凭自己的感觉说，也不是说完以后自己舒服了不顾他人的感受，话说不好肯定会得罪人。不以恶小而为之，不以善小而不为，会说话也是在做善事。会说话的人，把对方说的心存欢喜，喜笑颜开；不会说话的人，一句话就把别人怼的面露难色，兴致全无。还有人喜欢把话说的太满，明明自己没有把握做到的事，反而一口应允下来，最后实现不了，反倒落了一个没有诚信的罪名。
For most people, talking is a breeze, as long as it is open mouth, can talk endlessly. Interact with people, say what to say, think twice. Not only by their own feelings to say, nor after saying that they are comfortable regardless of the feelings of others, say not good will certainly offend people. Don't do it with evil, don't do it with good, speak and do good. A person who can speak, the other person said the heart happy, happy smile open, can not speak, a word will be other people怼 face difficult, all the joy. There are people like to say too full, clearly they are not sure to do things, but a promise down, and finally can not be achieved, but dropped a crime without integrity.
【2】做事太绝
2. It's great to do things.
人，做事情还是要给别人留有余地的，不要把别人逼到绝路上，给别人留后路，就是给自己铺道路。做事太绝的人，身边几乎没有朋友。因为他心狠，别人担心有一天矛头会对准自己，因此就会远离他。有人说如果别人跟我对着干，我有反胜的机会，不做到斩草除根，他就有机会反扑，到时候受伤害的还是我自己。其实，世间万物都有因果关系，你现在所种下的因必定某一天会收获相应的果。做坏事做得多的人，做事做得太绝的人，最后也会被别人逼上绝路。
People, do things or to leave room for others, do not force others to the road, to others to leave a way back, is to pave the way for themselves. People who do things too badly have few friends around them. Because he was so hard-hearted, others feared that one day he would be away from him. Some people say that if someone else with me to do, I have the opportunity to win, do not do grass root, he will have a chance to fight back, when the injury is myself. In fact, everything in the world has a causal relationship, the cause you plant now must one day harvest the corresponding results. People who do too much bad things, people who do too much, will end up being pushed out of the way by others.
【3】私心太重
The private heart is too heavy.
心若无私天地宽。私心太重的人，每天活得小心翼翼，看谁都心怀不轨。因为要考虑到自己的利益，就担心身边的人会与自己争夺利益，防着这个，防着那个，每天过得很累。一个人私心太重，就交不到真正的朋友。与人交往，光想着自己，不顾别人，别人跟他合作第一次就不会跟他合作第二次。私心太重的人，心胸也会狭窄。如井底之蛙，只能看到一片巴掌大的天空。不是自己精明，是自己太肤浅。
If the heart is selfless, the world is wide. People who are too private live carefully every day to see who has bad hearts. Because to take into account their own interests, worry about the people around them will compete with their own interests, guard against this, guard against that, live very tired every day. A person's private heart is too heavy, can not make a real friend. With people, just think of themselves, regardless of others, others with him the first time will not cooperate with him the second time. People who are too private will have narrow hearts. Like a frog at the bottom of a well, you can only see a big slap in the sky. It's not that you're smart, it's that you're too superficial.