和任何人打交道，记住两招就够了:事要缓，心要藏

你有没有发现，咱们和人打交道，其实远没有书上说得那么轻松？有时候话一出口，就掀起波澜；有时候一顿操作猛如虎，结果鸡飞狗跳。其实啊，这里面大有学问。

我跟你讲个身边的真实故事吧——关于我朋友小宇，那几年他刚步入职场，年轻气盛，总觉得自己能把一切难题“硬扛”过去。

那天是公司开年度会，领导让大家提点建议。小宇憋了一肚子话，吐槽流程复杂、部门沟通不畅，甚至点名批评某些同事拖后腿。他是出于好意，但现场气氛瞬间降到冰点，领导面色难看，几位同事听了也很不舒服。会后，小宇还觉得自己挺仗义，敢说真话。

可是，生活不是做选择题，说得好像就能改命。接下来几个月小宇明显被边缘化，项目分给他的不太重要，同事们开会时也不怎么叫他。小宇心里苦，却又不明白，自己明明没说错，为啥反而处境更加尴尬？

直到有一天，他去请教老王——公司里那位公认的“人精”。老王淡淡一笑，说：“小宇啊，你得记住，和谁交往，事都不能急，心更别全摊开。慢慢来，才是王道。”

小宇不服，“可我没撒谎啊！”

老王拍了拍他的肩膀，“呵，事情缓一缓，留点余地，大家还有再讨论、再调整的机会。你把心事全摊在阳台上，好像昭示正义，但有些东西就该放在心里，不动声色地推着走。谁都怕‘一刀见血’，我们都是普通人，经不起太锋利。”

小宇突然懂了。他按下急脾气，每次遇到问题先不急着提，自己先琢磨琢磨，有时候聊几句别的话题，有时候过两天再反馈，或者用个玩笑口吻带过去。渐渐地，同事们又开始和他说话了，主管也愿意给他重任。

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