吵吵闹闹的日子，藏着最软的糖

没人教过我们，怎样温柔地吵一架。多数时候，我们只是在生活的洪流中磕磕碰碰，在某个凌晨为一句话红了眼眶，又在第二天早晨为一杯温水悄悄心软。你是否发现，那些年少时讨厌的“吵”，原来是人生里最甜的调味剂？′

记得小时候，父母吵音总让1我泪如雨下。我窝在被子里，捂住耳朵等着世界安静。可现在长大了，再回家，听他们为了一点鸡毛蒜皮叨叨絮絮，竟反而觉得心安。仿佛那些声音不到，家就缺了根梁柱。其实很多人都一样，年岁渐长才明白，多少孤寂的夜晚，是被争吵和和好的笑声润色的。

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http://wap.qjsyj.cn/fence/72167.shtml为晚饭加不加盐，都能从厨房吵到卧室。外人笑阿岚脾气大，她却说，“正因为他在，我才敢肆无忌惮。”每次吵完，小郑都会悄悄塞颗糖到枕头底下——那是他们的秘密仪式，承认彼此都还在意。这种幽默和柔软，是只属于他们的小确幸。

当然，多数人的爱情也没那么诗意。生活琐碎，大事小情缠绕在一起。有时吵到崩溃，也会有倦意和疲惫。但就像深夜依然亮着的那盏灯，吵闹并不是破坏家的理由，而是一种旁遮侧掩的深爱。他们不会说伤人的重话，更不会把争吵升级为冷漠。哪怕言辞激烈，心里都留着对方的位置——这就是“最软的糖”。

朋友玲子离婚后，一个人带着孩子住。她说，最难熬不是照顾孩子的时候，而是小孩睡后，整屋只有自己。没人和她争电视遥控器、没人抱怨晚饭太清淡。曾经那些伤人的争吵，都成了如今梦里都想要的回应。不是所有的吵闹，都不值得怀念。当孤独爬满肩膀，才知道，有人肯陪你争个输赢，是多么难得的幸福。

也许你也正在经历这样的日子。以前会抱怨伴侣太唠叨、家务分配太不公平、生活摩擦太频繁。可假如有一天，这些习以为常的争执都消失了，只剩下一屋子的寂静和回音，你会发现，再甜的蜜，也比不上彼此拌嘴后的那个拥抱。

其实每一段温热的关系里，都潜伏着“吵吵闹闹”。只是当你敞开心扉，把抱怨当 ** ，把争吵当作沟通，再琐碎的生活，也能在不经意间冒出糖果一样的蜜意。就像冬天的雪后早晨，你还以为世界都冷成了冰，却在推开门时闻见一缕温柔的茶香。

日子慢慢走远，我们终究会怀念那些有响动的平凡时光。愿你珍惜手边每一次争吵，不用赌气长大，也不用静默地退场。愿你们只需一句“你别生气了”，就能把所有误会熬成糖，让时光里的吵闹成为回忆里最柔软的翔实。

所谓家的温度，或许就是吵着吵着又笑场，闹着闹着就握住对方的手。那些吵吵闹闹的日子，从来都不苦，只是糖太软，需要被时间静静融化，才懂它的甘甜。