今天，大家在关注奥运实况的同时，对这件曾轰动全国的杀人案件也格外关注：犯人终于被判死刑。
2021年7月26日14时30分，浙江省杭州市中级人民法院对被告人许国利故意杀人刑事附带民事诉讼一案进行公开宣判，以故意杀人罪判处被告人许国利死刑，剥夺政治权利终身；判决其赔偿附带民事诉讼原告人经济损失人民币20万元。
2020年7月4日晚，许国利在家中向来某某睡前饮用的牛奶内投入安眠药，待来某某饮用后在卧室床上昏睡之际，采用胶带纸封口、枕头捂压口鼻的方式致来某某死亡。
之后，许国利将来某某尸体搬至卫生间进行肢解，后分散抛弃。作案后，被告人许国利编造虚假信息，对外谎称来某某失踪，逃避侦查。
同年7月22日，公安机关筛查小区化粪池发现来某某的部分人体组织，于次日将许国利抓获归案。
法网恢恢，疏而不漏！恶人终于有恶报！
但是像许国利这样危险的人，生活中还有——他们就是反社会人格者。
这个词，最早由德国的皮沙尔特（prichard）提出“悖德狂”这一诊断名称。指出患者出现本能欲望、兴趣嗜好、性情脾气等方面的异常改变，但没有智能、认识或推理能力方面的障碍，亦无妄想或幻觉。后来逐渐被“反社会人格”取代。
有这种障碍的个体的突出点是行为具有悖德离社会规范的倾向，且在损害社会和他人之后没有愧疚之心，不能从挫折与惩罚中吸取教训，反而变本加厉的报复社会。
那么，我们有没有什么方法可以辨别反社会人格者呢？
“与反社会人格者保持界限非常重要”
这名网友是一位教师、艺术家，她凭自身经历表达感想：
Like one of the other members, I also married 2 narcissists. It’s not always easy to identify them, particularly when you are younger and have less life experience, but there are tells that will show, particularly with time, especially if the relax around you.
和其他人一样，我也嫁给了两个自恋者。要识别他们并不容易，尤其是当你还年轻、生活经验较少的时候。但有一些迹象会显现出来，特别是随着时间的推移，尤其是当你放松警惕的时候。
First, remember these kinds of people are the center of their universe, and lack empathy. Therefore, they will NEVER do anything spontaneously kind or helpful for another person. They will always weigh the cost benefit of any action, whether overtly or below the surface. In conversations, unless you are talking about them or something relevant to their identity/role, they are usually waiting for you to finish talking so they can tell their own version or steer the conversation. They like to talk about themselves, and will trot out “observations” about their own deficits or character flaws, which may seem really introspective. In reality they are feeling you out and testing your boundaries so that they can better refine their presentation of themselves to you.
首先记住，这类人往往以自我为中心而缺乏同理心。因此，他们永远不会自发地为他人做好事或提供帮助。他们总是会权衡任何行动的成本效益，无论是公开的还是私下的。在谈话中，除非你在谈论他们或与他们的身份/角色相关的事情，否则他们通常会等你讲完，这样他们才能说出自己的观点或引导谈话。他们喜欢谈论自己，会炫耀自己对自身缺陷或性格缺陷的“观察”，这可能看起来真的很内省。实际上，他们是在试探你，试探你的底线，这样他们就能更好地向你展示自己。
I do believe they can love to some degree, but it is always as a reflection or extension of themselves. For example, if asked what they like about their partner, they may say things like “he/she makes me feel good”, or “we’re a good fit”, or “I knew he/she would be a good mom, housewife, business partner“ or maybe “He/she understood me”instead of actually character traits or insights into your personality. Even their children and family will be described in terms of how they relate to the individual, i.e. the sister who always took care of them, the parent who never did enough, etc.
我确实相信他们在某种程度上有爱的能力，但那说到底还是从他们自身出发。例如，如果被问及他们喜欢自己的伴侣哪一点,他们可能会说“他/她让我感觉很好”，或“我跟他/她很合拍”，或“我知道他/她是一个很好的妈妈/家庭主妇/商业伙伴”或者“他/她了解我”，而不是说出伴侣的性格特征或对于他/她个性的洞察。甚至他们的孩子和家庭也会被描述成他们与个人之间的关系，例如，总是照顾他们的姐姐，总是做得不够的父母等等。
I have to say it’s extremely important to have clear boundaries with a sociopath/narcissistic, because the very thing they live for is to exploit the things they lack in the people around them to their advantage. So as soon as you engage in any kind of exchange with them, you are already at a disadvantage because they are already looking for ways to get something more than what they are putting in. Make sure your expectations are clear and stick to them. Good luck!
我不得不说，与反社会者/自恋者有明确的界限是非常重要的，因为他们活着的目的就是利用他们周围人身上所缺乏的东西。所以一旦你与他们进行任何形式的交换，你就已经处于劣势了，因为他们已经在寻找收获大于投入的方法。确保你的期望是明确的，并坚持下去。好运！
“这个人会颠覆你的世界”
网友Lance Crayon是The Global Times的前新闻主编，他说了两个例子，有一定的隐喻意味：
After three decades of boots-on-the-ground field research, I have two examples that will help you identify a sociopath.
经过三十年的实地研究，我有两个例子可以帮助你识别反社会者。
You’re at a party and everyone is socializing, drinking, and having a good time. The male sociopath arrives and notices the host has a dog. In this scenario, a big dog that is potentially dangerous, like a pit b Doberman Pincher, Chow, or Siberian Husky, will work in his favor. Everyone at the party keeps their distance from the canine, who is kept outside as a safety precaution because it attacked a neighbor’s poodle, and there was a lawsuit.
你在一个派对上，每个人都在社交，喝酒，玩得很开心。这个反社会的男人来了，注意到主人有一只狗。在这种情况下，有潜在危险的大狗，如杜宾犬、Chow或西伯利亚哈士奇，将对他有利。派对上的每个人都和这只狗保持距离。为了安全起见，这只狗被关在外面，因为它袭击了邻居的狮子狗，还惹上了官司。
The sociopath goes straight for the dog and bonds with it. The dog loves him. The sociopath shows no fear. The two of them, man and dog, play with a tennis ball, just the way God designed the world to be before greed and prejudice infected humanity.
反社会者直接去找狗，和它建立联系。狗很喜欢他。反社会者没有表现出恐惧。他们两个，人和狗，玩着网球，这就是上帝在贪婪和偏见感染人类之前设计的世界。
Do not get sucked in by what you think is a beautiful moment, especially when you consider the dog could easily kill four people when provoked. This man will up-end your world.
不要被你认为是美好的时刻所吸引，尤其是当你想到狗在被激怒时可以轻易杀死四个人的时候。这个人会颠覆你的世界。
Before you know it, you’ll be the one outside on a leash, watching him and your dog sitting comfortably inside, as they laugh hysterically, at you.
在你意识到之前，你就会被拴在外面，看着他和你的狗舒服地坐在里面，歇斯底里地嘲笑你。
The second example. Always be on alert for the guy who talks about his mother. “My mom said…’ “One time, my mom…” “Yesterday, my mom….’ and on and on, all through the night.
第二个例子。时刻警惕谈论他母亲的人。“我妈妈说，‘有一次，我妈妈……’”“昨天，我妈妈....”诸如此类，日夜不停地说。
His mother is the only subject he can talk about at length. Regardless of the topic being discussed, whether it’s the 2nd round draft picks the New York Jets secured, or China’s Belt and Road Initiative, he will try to domimate the conversation and steer it in the direction of his mother.
他的母亲是他唯一能详细谈论的话题。无论讨论的话题是纽约喷气机队获得的第二轮选秀权，还是中国的“一带一路”倡议，他都会试图主导话题，把话题引向他母亲的方向。
Make no mistake about it, this man will slit your throat while you’re sleeping. Afterward, he will go to your kitchen and call his mommy. The two of them will have a three-hour conversation about that time when he was stung by a wasp at the age of 14.
别搞错了，这个人会趁你睡觉的时候割断你的喉咙。之后，他会去你的厨房给他妈妈打电话。两人将会就他14岁时被黄蜂蜇的那次经历进行3个小时的谈话。
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